How To Be A Nice Guy And Still Get Laid

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How To Be A Nice Guy And Still Get Laid

-- by Mike Pilinski --

(c) 2003 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. -- All Rights Reserved http://www.highstatusmale.com

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I suppose I could have titled this article Why Do Women Show Absolutely No Romantic Interest In A Nice Guy (Like Me) Even Though They All Claim To Want To Meet A Nice Guy (Like Me)?

Whew! Well, maybe not. It sure is tempting though -- because in my unexpected career as the internet's new Dear Mr. Abby, I've gotten some basic form of that question many times over in the past few months, and I'm getting sick of it. So in the interest of suppressing my e-mail a little bit, let me show you my theory of why it is that nice guys are scorned by women everywhere, and how to get around this social handicap without having to take night courses in How to be a Jerk at your local community college (although I hear they ARE a great place to meet sexy young women... ;-)

I'm sure you know the infuriating mantra that you've heard time and again from women --either in person or on all these stupid afternoon talk shows: ...But Oprah, there's no one to date out there, all the guys are all such jerks and losers. I just want to meet a nice guy... Oh how they love to whine.

Well if you consider yourself to be the ice guy these women swear they're looking for, but you strike-out with all but the very lowest end of the female food chain anyway, then you know what royal bull**** this declaration really is. Nonetheless -- despite the fact that most of the feral women (18-35) actually date & screw the drunken lowlifes and pricks they claim to hate -- they seem determined to drill it into our heads that this happens ONLY because the right ice guy hasn't come-a-stumbln' into their life yet. Rrrrr-ight.

Ok, here's what's REALLY going on. As usual, women are talking in code. (They are famous for this).

When women imagine ice guys in their minds, what they're really dreaming about is a guy who makes them feel SAFE... but in a very *special* sort of way that preserves his male sexual attractiveness. Actually, this is not very mysterious when you think about it from the *female* perspective. To a woman, a safe guy means ONLY that you're physically harmless -- nothing more. In terms of what you could do to her emotions, well... that's a different story.

This blend of hot n' cold, exciting n' boring, safe n' dangerous is what she is REALLY searching for -- this is what she *lives* for. It's what she thinks of as having 'chemistry' with a guy.

The problem with being overtly nice or lap-doggishly friendly and accommodating with women is that it communicates the worse kind of SUBLIMINAL message to them. (P.S. Everything IMPORTANT that goes on between men and women in the early stages of all romantic-sexual encounters is always communicated NON-verbally. Words may be the power tools of seduction -- but it's what you DON'T actually say with words that will make or break you!). Anyway, this lousy subliminal messaging is the key to why nice guys rarely get laid. Here's why:

'Nice-guy' behavior is NOT something that women see you as switching on in their presence like some well-meaning but fumbled attempt to impress them. Instead, they believe that you've been TRAINED (yes, like a f***ing dog) by other, *more powerful* men in your world to act this way!

In other words, 'nice guy' is how subservient men have learned to act in the presence of stronger men in order to protect themselves from harm (I am no threat to your status as the more dominant male... please don't hurt me... let me be your harmless, lovable side-kick...). To women, then, iceness is a screaming red flashing signal of LOW MALE STATUS, and therefore...

...it is an ENORMOUS TURN OFF to them!

This is why they can't develop any sexual energy (i.e., chemistry) with nice guys, and with good reason. Nature has hardwired the female brain to seek out the most powerful male to mate with in order to produce the strongest offspring with the best chance to survive. It's the same reason why men have been hardwired to chase after women who display physical signs of youthfulness (because youthfulness = reproductive success, or viewed the other way around... old ladies = reproductive failure... i.e., no eggs left in the carton, to put it bluntly). While male and female ACTIONS may be completely different, their GOALS remain the same -- strong healthy babies to carry forth the species. This is so because maleness and femaleness are really just two different but complimentary STRATEGIES for reproduction -- and men and women are compelled to behave differently in order to executed these dissimilar strategies on one another.

You see, Nature doesn't care about hurting people's feelings -- it cares ONLY about reproductive success in order to keep those precious DNA molecules traveling forward in Time. The dance of mating & seduction -- in all creatures -- is linked inseparably to this biological imperative. Go against it and you're flying in the face of millions of years of evolution (or maybe its design, who knows?). Learn to play by it's rules... and you will win!

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Anyway, being the correct sort of nice guy to women really only means being someone who is A) safe, and B) a guy that she would NOT be embarrassed to show off to her family or close (judgmental) friends. Understand that there's a lot of latitude in there between a kiss-ass wimp and a complete psycho. Your job is to find that happy middle.

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Alright, some practical application of theory. It's difficult to describe exactly how to go about handling the issue of being a nice guy, but here's my best try...

You never want to ACT like a nice guy around women, but...

...you always want to SEEM like one.

Can you get a sense of what I'm trying to say here? The problem with being nice is TRYING to be nice, instead of just LETTING it happen. You can't come across as an *obvious* a nice guy -- you just have to drop enough hints around women so that you SEEM like one. Never, *EVER* broadcast your nice guy potential to women like it's something that you're proud of! Yeeesh!

Here's a few examples of what I mean:

1) When you first meet a woman that you're attracted to, you must establish a NON-verbal line of communication in a way that provokes stirrings of instinctual mating thoughts in her subconscious deep brain. In other words, you need to transmit your interest in her in a man-woman sexual-potential way *without* actually speaking any words to that effect! Nice trick, eh? Actually it's easy... two ways in which you can do this are with extended eye contact and brief, non-offensive touches. Both casual, but unmistakable in their true meaning to her.

2) Drop HINTS about you're capacity to be a nice guy, but don't demonstrate it -- otherwise you will come off like a complete kiss-ass. Do this by A) slipping in suggestions of having strong family-friends relationships in your life (a sign to women that you're connected & normal), or B) that you have something exciting going on in your life -- either at work, as a hobby, or perhaps a recent adventure of some kind.

Here's an example from my own experiences. I used to work for a photography company. Sounds exciting, eh? Not really. The amount of time I spent with a camera in my hand was less than 5% of the total time I was there. I mostly did boring lab work and mechanical McGuiver tricks to keep a lot of old, over-used equipment up and running. But maybe a half dozen to 20 times a year, I got to fly around in light planes shooting aerial pictures around the Western New York area for various commercial clients.

So when I'm chatting up a girl, sometimes I'll work in a quick little anecdote that's drawn from one of my old flying jobs. Like how the snowpack collecting on Lake Erie forms such beautifully colored cracks in the greenish ice sheets during the height of mid-winter. But I make nothing more of it, all very nonchalant... and I DON'T fully explain how I came into the position of flying around the area and making such an observation in the first place. Is it through work? A hobby?... What am I involved in that would give me an opportunity to view this natural wonder? Business travel? What?

She's at least a little bit curious about me now, but she's not comfortable asking questions since I've just rolled over the subject quickly and she doesn't really know me well enough yet. Besides, (and this is important to understand) she LIKES not knowing! Mystery! Intrigue! I've suggested to her in an off-hand way that I'm a productive guy (safe & normal) who's into SOMETHING that's kind of fascinating and possibly making me good money -- but without revealing too much about what it is, and especially NOT explaining every last detail in the droll, somewhat braggartly way that is the hallmark of the boring-as- hell nice guy.

You can drop hints about family (connections, i.e. I'm not a lonely, desperate hermit) or whatever in a similar manner to show her that you're an okay (nice?) guy without piercing the delicate bubble of MYSTERY that must envelope every seduction.

Now you're in like Flynn in terms of getting your foot in the door to her heart (this is only Step 1 remember). Why? Because she's made the determination in her *subconscious* mind (where it really counts) that you seem like a nice guy beneath an otherwise dominant male presentation of yourself, and that piques her interest immensely.

You are a rare encounter in the universe of men that breaks down into either sappy, boring ice guys or worthless (but, alas, exciting) pricks. Your stock has gone up at the moment it matters most... that make or break moment OF FIRST ENCOUNTER. No matter what flaws you might otherwise imagine yourself to have, you have become interesting to her in a way that AT LEAST she'll never categorize as friggin' ice. NOW you have a shot!

And you can move on to Seduction Steps 2, 3, 4, etc. with the confidence of a High Status Male!

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Mike Pilinski is the author of Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System... a unique method of meeting girls that will have you making up for wasted time spent living in shy-guy hell from the very first moment you test it out. Check it Out Here => http://www.highstatusmale.com

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Female Photography

The most inspirational figure of all times, in photography, is of a woman. Yet female photography has been the root cause of many scandals. Women and their form have fascinated many a famous painters and sculptors including Vinci, Raphael, Picasso, Vermeer etc. Some of the other great pieces of art depicting women include ?Whistler?s Mother? and the ?Venus De Milo?. Photography, which came into existence later, just followed this pattern and brought images to life using depth and colors.

One of the most famous photographs of all times is the face of an Afghan girl on the cover of National Geographic magazine?s 1985 issue. Her name is Sharbat Gula and the photograph of her direct gaze into the camera, intrigued many people for years; Steve McCurry took this photograph. Female Photography can be well divided into various forms like fashion model photography, nude photography, celebrity photography, and self-portraits. Nude photography has got be that one form of photography that has shaped and influenced the perspective of people worldwide.

Photography is an art, which can fill your heart with the joy of having achieved the extraordinary. The most important criteria for becoming a good photographer is to have passion for taking pictures. You should have the ability to feel the intensity in the eyes of a woman, to understand the female form, its delicate nuances, and understand and appreciate the many of moods of woman. Additionally, a dexterous hand at being able to experiment with light and shadows will bring out the depths and tones in your pictures.

There are three very important aspects of photographing women:

Setting the surrounding or the scene: How the photographs really come out depends a lot on the immediate surrounding. The subject?s expressions can also vary with the surrounding. If you are trying to take a photograph in the middle of a bustling street then your subject may also feel the crowd around her and this can easily affect her expressions. On the other hand, a photograph on a secluded waterfront might bring out the best expressions. Creativity plays an important role; the more creative you are regarding the settings, the better the photograph will be.

Lighting Conditions: Lighting conditions are important for getting the best out of a photograph. Too much or too less light can expose the photograph and destroy its effect. The best option is to have a soft bulb light, which works better than a flash. Always remember, to place the light source either on the subjects left side or the right side. This will bring out the details in the face. You can always experiment with the position of the light and even bounce it off the ceiling but never place it in the front, as it will lead to reflection in the photograph. You can also use a soft side light for creating shadows and use a filler flash to light up the face of the model.

Getting it right: Getting the ?perfect? shot during female photography shoot, is a challenging task. Try to use a long lens and take the picture moving away from the subject. You can also use a tripod to get a steady shot. Most of the top-notch female photographers use a small aperture and a long shutter speed. Last but not the least; you need to take as many shots as possible with different expressions so that you can get the perfect shot.

Women are enigmatic and mysterious. Female photography is an ode to this most beautiful creation of God!

About the Author:

Seth Willis is the webmaster for http://www.Starephotography.com he enjoys photography as well as painting and blues and Jazzguitar.Stare photography is an Online school for budding andseasoned photographers to enhance their skills or start a new career.

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For Life's Up's and Down's

I said a little prayer today
To God up high above
I didn?t ask for many things
Just His continual love
I asked Him to take care of you
To offer you some peace
To bring you comfort at this time
And to never, ever cease.
I asked Him to help guide you
Over the rocky road you tread
To show you some improvement
In the troubled times ahead.
I know for sure He heard me
Because He always hears our prayers
He listens to every one of us
And He will show you that He cares

Biography
Poetry
I have been writing poetry for many years and regularly have it published in print. My poetry is published by Forward Press and in many other publications. So I'm now putting my poetry online. I publish my poetry on my Blog jo-hale-poetry at http://jo-hale-poetry.blogspot.com/ and on 8hop.com My poetry on 8hop.com. I also have information about my poetry at http://www.squidoo.com/jo-hale-poetry. I'm married to my husband Peter. I was born in May 1970 and am a Taurean star sign.
Age: 36
Gender: female
Astrological Sign: Gemini
Zodiac Year: Dog
Industry: Publishing
Occupation: poet
Location: Bristol England, United Kingdom

Other Interests
Reading poetry cinema animals music photography WW2 stories & memorabelia Day trips quizzes & puzzles.
Favourite Movies
Too many to mention - all depends on my mood. I like comedy thriller romance horror stand up comedy sci-fi etc.
Favourite Books
Again wide range in taste - comedy thriller horror sci-fi fantasy WW2 stories girlie poetry etc

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Being Black Part II

I'm very upset and disgusted by what a private educated female said on the Channel 4 show. Her quote was Black people are just very bad, always in trouble and is in full support of slavery and wishes it came back, she would definitely have a black slave. I think what she said was a disgrace and only enlighten black people with the knowledge that even in this day and age racism still persists. Black people suffered a hell of a lot through slavery and to think that they are trying to forget about the pass, only to have a bimbo bring it all up? Channel 4 should also know what they are broadcasting, as there are a lot of old people who have witnessed or been through slavery or racism and yet again to have this on national TV and to be brought back up and thrown in there faces! Me personally this just brings back memories of the Stephen Lawrence case and shows justice will never be done. I sincerely hope that something gets done about this because this is really unfair. Since watching the show I feel very insecure in being black and feel as if racism is everywhere its just been hidden.

2007 is the 200th year anniversary of the abolition of slavery in the UK!! 200 years on and this is how people think. We really should be complaining.

On celebrity big brother a supposed racist comment got a hopping 46,000 to complain to OFCOM, an eviction of this excuse for a human being, demonstration all the way to India and Indian MPs in Britain openly condemned the wretch yet only a few days after that event on the same Channel?Another Channel 4 show called Shipwrecked, a private school educated contestant makes statements such as Black people are just very bad, always in trouble and is in full support of slavery and wishes it came back, she would definitely have a black slave and 3 whole days later and OFCOM only receives a mere 460 complaints? Seriously! What does it take FOR black people to stand up for themselves? This silly girl flat out says, she wishes slavery was back and I find people chatting fart about freedom of speech or chatting about how they can't be bothered.

I personally don't give a damn whether she likes me or not As a Black Man, as far as I am concerned she can exercise freedom of speech and use her backside to express it too. My complaint isn't towards her but towards the broadcaster...in this case Channel 4 who felt it appropriate to provide her with a platform to spew her filth.

With freedom of speech comes responsibility of speech and ultimately in this case that responsibility lies with the Broadcasters hence why swear words are bleeped and any sign of negative rude or sexual gestures are blurred and in some cases t-shirts with logos/slogans containing what might be seen as advertising also get blurred...yet Channel 4 (1st) decides to broadcast a racist comment which by the way was filmed six months before the first screening and (2nd), broadcast it at a picked TV viewing hour for children (Sunday 6:25PM) without might I add any warning of the racist content..? Viewers are even warned of flash photography before most shows are aired, yet black parents don't get any warning to protect their children from having to hear hateful words directed at them from some smut???

Also consider...if channel 4 or any other prime time channel would ever allow any fool to say on TV The Holocaust never existed, Jewish people got what they deserved and or wishes for the holocaust to come back?

I think not!!!

Now I want people to get of the freedom of speech mantra or any lame as excuse and complain to OFCOM because our freedom of choice whether to choose to hear hateful words and or protect our children from the same was removed in order to protect hers. This might seem like such a trivial thing to some of you but you let this one go and by the time you start to care, it'll be too little to late.

Do what the Jews did and Indians are doing now and you won't have to worry about that later.

Edited and written by Mark J. Stevens

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Female Form Photography

I don't think that it's any secret that the female form or body has been attractive to men for many, many moons. Sexual attraction may be the first thing to come to mind, however the female form is something of a wonder and to many an artist and beholder in general. There are many different forms of artwork paying homage to women including Whistlers Mother, Mona Lisa etc. Today of course we can also achieve greatness in art from the still camera.

Female form photography explained -

Female form photography is almost as it suggests. It is the capturing of the female form image while she poses for photographic purposes. There are many competent photographers today with established photography businesses specializing in different modes of female form photography. These modes include both commercial and artistic strands, often both in one.

Why female form photography?

As indicated earlier, female photography is an evergreen topic of interest for men mostly. But just why is it so popular even after so many centuries?? By now, it seems almost all poses and art expressions of a woman have been captured by the camera. However, it is still in vogue! These are the probable reasons for the sustenance of the female form photography:

- A woman?s body has been a symbol of reverence for men. A woman has always stood for beauty, truth and purity beyond the reach of men. Capturing those delicate moments in a single expression creates ripples in the photography market.

- The next obvious reason for the added interest is the physical attraction that men have for women. Female anatomy photography is a definite yes for them.

- Last but not least is money. Female photography fetches lots of money. Photographers have been known to become wealthy quickly in this arena. As a result, female nude photographs are always in demand.

However, no matter what the reasons are for the photographer, it is the ultimate affect the photograph captures that is important.

Some female form photography tips

Clothes on or no clothes, females have always been a favorite subject of photography. However, it takes talent and perseverance to get the exact expression that would make your photos world famous. If you need some tips about female form photography, then given below are few start ups that would hopefully help you along.

- Find the right model for your photograph!

Getting a subject for your photograph is a tough job for any photographer - especially if your aim is to take intimate photographs. However, if it is simply facial expressions that matter, then even your mother, daughter, wife or sister would do. It is the expression you want right? I?m sure it would be apparent, that if it involves some degree of nudity, then it is better you hire a professional model who would be more comfortable posing.

- Background for stills

The background needs special attention when it comes to photographing female forms. Viewers usually relate better to a serene setting that matches her delicate lines. Usually, the studio is the best place to do the shoot as you can adjust your settings and be in control of lighting. If outdoor shooting is your interest, then you?ll need to be prepared with equipment for highlighting contrasts etc. Hint: A darker background gives better clarity to the female form.

- Lights, Camera, and click?.

The lighting is of paramount vitality if you want your images to be perfect. It is always better to have the lighting focused on the female either from behind or the sides. Directly on the face would have two disadvantages; the light on the face would not capture the perfect expression which angled lighting or background lighting would provide. Moreover, light on the face would make any one uncomfortable and promote squinting!

- Keep your distance!

When you are shooting your model, make sure you are away from her!! Use a variety of lenses. Avoid moving in too close when you are capturing the most detailed moments of her face, keeping some distance will help immensely. It would make her feel comfortable and result in better and more diversified expressions.

Female photography gives you immense scope to show off the talent that you have as a photographer. Well, they say ?There is a woman behind every man?s success?. This clich? can?t be more appropriate than in this sector of photography!!

Supplied courtesy of Roy Barker. Roy has a guide that coaches you on how to run a photography business but places strong emphasis on profitability issues & guidelines rather than camera technique. For more information on nude photography see female form photography. For brief reviews on services or equipment see http://www.profitable-photography.com/resources.php

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